On Polarity: The Complexity of No Right Answer

A polarity in conflict is a disagreement that is fundamentally unsolvable, because there is no clear right or wrong answer. A polarity becomes a conflict because people care deeply about the outcome, and their underlying ideas, values and beliefs pull them strongly to one side or the other. 

How To Be A More Trauma Informed Workplace

Trauma is very common in the workplace, and many workplace cultures make it worse or even create it. Learn tangible steps for building a trauma informed workplace culture that supports people’s safety, belonging and dignity.

Why We Avoid Conflict in the Workplace

Conflict is unavoidable. It is a natural part of human interaction. When we try to avoid it, we usually make it worse. The best thing you can do to improve your team dynamic is develop your own capacity to engage in conflict, and support others to do the same. 

We Are Nature Not Machines

When we place urgency and deadlines before human wellbeing, we end up with major problems of burnout, turnover, conflict and toxicity … the list goes on. We need to do the personal and interpersonal work that is  necessary to really change how we relate, what we value, how we act, and how we lead.

How to Know When We’re Leading from Reactivity

There is no one right way to engage in conflict, but it is possible to have less reactivity and more choice in our responses.  With choice, we can have more fluidity, a sense of capacity, and feel in alignment with our dignity. Leaders have a greater responsibility to develop a range of ways to respond in conflict because of the power attached to their role.

What is Somatic Coaching?

Your body knows how to heal and resource itself. Big Waves uses a range of somatic approaches to help you listen to your body’s wisdom to find your path to greater alignment.

Five Questions to Begin Your New Relationship with Conflict

I used to be afraid of conflict, and I had the survival strategies to match that fear. Sometimes I would come out swinging hard, if I felt righteous, or particularly angry.  Other times, I would give up my own needs and boundaries to protect the other person’s feelings, if I was worried about the relationship.  […]